Here is the challenge. If you want to see a living proof of a happy person, not a camera- induced happiness, i mean a genuinly authentic one characterized by the overpowering smile that no matter what negative mood has taken reign over you, would deeply impact you, then you have to meet me. One of the element of the definition of my person is that of happiness, courtesy of 90% of those who know me or who ever come in contact with me.
This brings us to ask what is the definition of happiness anyway. According to wikipedia, happiness is the mental or emotional state of well being characterized by pleasant emotions raging from contentment to intense joy. But at what moment one can claim to be happy .Some people would say that their happiness is linked to money or any desired material possession, others believe that happiness is a choice, that we choose to be happy or not, another category would argue that one is capable of reaching happiness through faith in the Almighty God. No matter where you can find happiness, it it important to understand that it is not a mere button that you press and there ,you are happy. In fact it is quite considered at some point as an ideal to pursuit This can be easily verified by the fact that there are many wealthy and famous personalities who are proof that money doesn't bring happiness, or even the most fervent believers who are so negative they can enter a dark room and grow. Although anyone has a liberty to define happiness the way it can apply to them, there are certain steps or approaches you can take to really come to term with the idea of happiness.
There is a number of questions you can ask yourself such as WHO I REALLY AM and WHO I WANT TO BECOME. The answers of these questions helped me choose a direction of my life from where i was. Once i used a number of approaches to would lead me to happiness, i was able to put my life in auto pilot so that even in the middle of ravaging storm, i remain on top of my game and even impact others in many ways.
Few years ago i was working as a cashier in a retail store, the manager did what has never been done in the history of that company. He had had my smiling pictures posted everywhere in the store written on the bottom was 'Happiness is contagious". To make matter interesting, many customers took copies of my picture with them. I was so happy to be happy. This experience showed me how i was able to touch people with my happy attitude(smile). It was and it is really contagious. Imagine the feeling you have in changing people's mood with a simple smile. The most rewarding feeling we possess in life is when we help someone else.
To me , my happiness is no longer for my own good alone, it is also therapeudic for others
To be who i am today, i have accomplished some steps to get there and any one else can use the same approach to get there too .
Freedom; Realizing that who i am today is a result of the many choices tha i made in the past, made me recognize that i am free to give my life any direction i choose to. For example i am free to respond to any circustances that happen to me, i can choose to wallow, complaint, blame or i can choose to see what is happenig to me as an opportunity and exploit it.
Hope: To me, hoping that tomorrow is going to be better makes me happy today
Emotional recall; When things go awry and we find ourselves drifting away, gasping for a moment of good feeling, we can do the following; Think of a past positive experience, sit quietly and remember the circumstances, where you were, who else was there,what time it was, the sound, the smell and concentrate of what happened and how you felt, feel it as though it was happening again. you will realize that you are enjoying the moment and therefore you become happy at that moment.
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